Partner-Libi-dos
"The small wave comes before the big one."
Connection is the space in which libido arises between two people. Not perfection, not spontaneity - but presence, security and curiosity. The Partner-Libi-dos are invitations for couples: rapprochement, attunement, communication and the elements of ecstasy.
Important: Only do these exercises if you are comfortable with your partner. Anyone who has been affected by trauma and feels uncomfortable should keep their eyes open, sit or do the exercise for a very short time - 5 minutes is enough. Discuss in advance when you will break off and get each other's approval.
Body Mapping
One person lies comfortably. The other gently and slowly touches different parts of the body - hands, arms, shoulders, head, feet. The person lying down gives feedback: "Yes," "No," "More," "Less" - without explanation. Then switch.
Body mapping creates a safe, explicit language of touch. Many couples have never learned to talk about touching preferences - because it's embarrassing, because you're afraid of disappointing the other person, or because you think the other person should just know. Body mapping makes the unsayable sayable – without drama, without analysis. It builds trust and increases the quality of every subsequent touch.
- 1Creates a quiet, warm space - dimmed lights, no distractions
- 2Decides who lies first (Partner A) and who touches (Partner B)
- 3Partner B slowly touches: hands, arms, head, face, feet, back
- 4Partner A gives feedback: "Yes" (pleasant), "No" (stop), "More" or "Less"
- 5Not a sex goal – just exploration and learning
- 6After 15 minutes: change
This exercise can also be done solo: explore your own body with the same questions. Which touch feels invigorating? Which neutral? Which one opens something?
This category contains a total of 8 Libi-dos - the preview above shows you one of them to get you started. You can find all complete instructions, type recommendations, adaptogens and protocols in «Lustwärts».